Relationship Advice for Women – No Kiss, Ball or Glass Slipper Needed for True Love in Relationships

How many of you watched Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty, Blogline The Little Mermaid, Aladdin, or Beauty and the Beast while growing up?

Did you believe the Prince Charming stories? I did. In fact those stories laid the foundation for my beliefs about true love.

As a teen, music continued forming my views toward life, especially music that supported my beliefs about true love. Words wrapped in music that appealed to my emotions spoke truth to me. princefoundation

In the spring of 1964, Betty Everett made it quite clear to me how to recognize true love. The Shoop Shoop Song (It’s in His Kiss) captured my heart. I had crystal clear instructions for finding true love that I immediately tested.

My impressionable young mind gratefully accepted all the love song lyrics I heard, especially those by popular artists. Music lyrics prepared me for all I needed to know about searching for and finding my prince.

When I met and married my Prince Charming, I heard birds singing. My fairy tale came true.

Until…disagreements, financial arguments, unplanned pregnancies, unmet material desires, and lack of personal attention towards me. Suddenly my prince did not look as princely as before. pollenindex

During that time, I met a gentle and soft-spoken older woman who quietly listened to all my complaints. Never did she focus on my tarnished prince or agree with me. Instead she asked, “Do you know Jesus Christ and have you invited Him into your heart?”

My initial response as well as second, third, fourth and fifth was–“She’s crazy! What does knowing Jesus or inviting Him into my heart have to do with my marriage?” kutyulva

Years later on the radio I heard Dr. George Kenworthy. Whenever couples came to him for marital counseling, he asked three questions:


      1. Do you believe there is a God?
      2. Are you willing to apply the principles of God’s Word to your life and to your marriage? (If not, the marriage will fail.)
      3. Are you willing to pray that the Spirit of God will give you the hope and power that I know you don’t have to save your marriage?
      4. Both my friend and Dr. George Kenworthy focused on my spiritual foundation rather than my marriage. Would I accept their advice and trust that God would bring about a change in me and my marriage or would I continue to believe the promises of words? Music made me feel good, so did pleasing advice that agreed with my beliefs. Could trusting God compare to what I already had? While reading the Bible, I came across Matthew 11:28-30,


“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” 

I couldn’t fix my prince and I didn’t know how to change me. I was weary and burdened and needed rest. So I accepted Jesus’ offer.

Jesus dealt with me, not my prince. I came to know and love the God of the Bible as well as myself. God’s Word became what I relied on and trusted. When I reminded my prince of his faults and failures, I realized that according to God’s Word, I was no better. otthonszuletik

In time I understood the concept of God’s grace. Initially, I grudgingly gave it to others until I realized God’s great love for me. Only then did I freely give what God had freely given me.

My prince is still my prince, but God is my True Love. He is the One who taught me what true love is and how it acts.

God transforms anyone who comes to Him and obeys His Word. If you would like to know more about God’s transformation process, you can receive a free e-book of Becoming God’s Vessel of Honor. villanyt-szere

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